Self-Care During Grief 1

As people go through their grief journey, self-care can often take a back seat.

While you are mourning, it is important that you make an effort to prioritise your health and well-being as best you can – both physically and mentally.

Self-care during grief is one of those things that are much easier said than done.

People walking in grief tend to be hard on themselves and may even hold them accountable for the loss of their loved one – so taking care of themselves and prioritising their needs is deemed as a “selfish” act.

However, this is far from right.

Self-care is essential for anyone and means you are creating conditions that allow you to integrate the loss of your loved one into your heart.

To be self-nurturing is to have the courage to pay attention to your needs, and overall, self-nurturing is to about self-acceptance.

Healthy self-care forces us to mourn in ways that help us heal, and here are a few ways to achieve that.

Connect and touch

For many people, having conversations and physical contact with others promotes healing. For example, hugging a friend or kissing your children goodnight.

The simplest actions can sometimes have the greatest benefits.

When we are grieving, it can be challenging to spark conversation with others, especially when all you want to do is shut yourself out and be alone.

But once you are ready to face the world again, the smallest interactions with others can harness good, long-term effects.

Music and sleep

It is common to experience grief-related insomnia. Getting the right amount of sleep every night is one of the most powerful self-care tools out there.

When we have adequate sleep, we are reset with energy for the following day, but once this is disrupted, we can’t 100% function.

You might want to listen to music to help you sleep at night. Music can be very healing for grief as it helps access our feelings, both happy and sad.

Listening to music can soothe the mind and get you to stop thinking about your concerns.


The right kind of physical movement will help your body release the tension and pain that comes with grief.

Whether you take a leisurely stroll in the park, go back to the gym, or even join a yoga class, exercise will contribute to better sleep, mental stability and an overall sense of well-being.